Losing Lola by Kirsty Dallas & Exclusive Author Interview with Kirsty

“I took a deep breath as my eyes lowered to the scars on her chest. “They are the battle wounds of a warrior who went to hell and kicked its ass. They are proof of how strong you are, and a reminder that you are alive!” – Losing Lola by Kirsty Dallas

 Intense, captivating and romantic.

Losing Lola is an intense story of mental strength, healing and love overcoming the aftermath of sexual assault. The story has a lot of soul and romance which makes it a captivating read – did I mention that it’s also very sexy? It’s not for the faint-hearted and parts of Lola’s assault experience can be quite confronting. What I liked about this book is that even though Drew was a tough, quiet, military hottie who rescues Lola physically, it’s Lola who pulls herself from her own internal demons and fears. Also in a way, her femininity and vulnerability saved Drew from his past and his shadows. It’s realistic that Lola had a great support network called Mercy’s Angels (women’s shelter) to help her overcome her experience. I liked that the chapters alternate from Lola and Drew’s perspectives, their voices in the story are very different which I felt was well done. The story progresses at a fast pace, there’s a good portion of the story dedicated to Drew and Lola’s relationship development. The message at the end of the book which I thought is highly relevant says “Sexual assault is something you experience. It does not define you.”  I recommend this for romance adult readers and those who enjoys a sexy read. This book can be read as a stand-alone!

– NJ


EXCLUSIVE AUTHOR INTERVIEW WITH AUTHOR KIRSTY DALLAS

So how does author Kirsty Dallas write such a compelling romance novel and how does she “stay classy, sassy, and a little bad assy”?

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I continued the series as simply a way to highlight and bring attention to these sensitive and important topics.

1. As this is one of the first books I have read in the Mercy’s Angel’s series, could you tell us a bit more about the series and what inspired you to write them?

[KIRSTY]  The entire Mercy’s Angels series revolves around violence against women, whether it be child abuse, domestic abuse, or sexual assault, each book follows the heartache, fear and healing a woman goes through when she’s been the victim of such an assault. Mercy’s Angels is a women’s shelter that plays an important role in the healing of each character. The first book in the series, Saving Ella, was written as a healing tool for myself. As a domestic abuse survivor, this was my way of expressing my own fears, healing and dreams. I continued the series as simply a way to highlight and bring attention to these sensitive and important topics. (The next book in this series will actually tackle the subject of the emotional and physical abuse of a man in a relationship, because it’s not just women who are victims of these crimes and I really want to explore and acknowledge that).

2. What are your top 3 tips on writing compelling characters?

[KIRSTY] Plausibility – your character needs to be three dimensional, with real flaws, fears and emotions. Write about characters who display human virtues, characters that readers can look up to and admire. Writing can be very much like acting, in the sense you need to be your character, you need to think like they would, you need to put yourself outside your comfort zone and explore different emotions, and situations you may not have been in before.

3. Sexual assault can be a very difficult subject matter to explore, what was some of your challenges in writing this novel?

[KIRSTY] I spent a lot of time watching documentaries, and reading biography’s about survivors of sexual assault. This obviously took an emotional toll, spending so much time in the lives of women who had been so deeply scarred by their assault. I just wanted to reach out and hug each of these women, I wanted to make sure they knew their worth, their strength and their ability to overcome such an invasive trauma. Being made to feel so powerless, having something so personal taken from you by force, it’s terrifying, and eventually I had to try and put myself mentally in that situation to create Lola. Needless to say, it was a long and difficult six months of writing.

4. Can you tell us a little bit about your other works?

My current work in progress, Stupid Love (a comedy romance about Cameron Cupid, the child of Eros (God of Love), who in actual fact, hates love).

[KIRSTY] Outside of the Mercy’s Series, I have three standalone novels, Breeze Of Life (which is a road-trip adventure about a girl recovering from cancer), Violet Addiction (which is best friends to lovers romance and tackles drug addiction), and When Nothing Is All You’ve Got (A dystopian romance based in an underground prison). Decker’s Wood is my International Best Seller (a comedy romance about a porn star whose main attraction – his wood – stops performing), Bradley’s Whistle is a spin-off from Decker’s Wood (about a female porn star who escapes some bad press by fleeing to the UK) and my current work in progress, Stupid Love (a comedy romance about Cameron Cupid, the child of Eros (God of Love), who in actual fact, hates love).

5. If there is one message readers can take away from your debut novel, what are you hoping it would be?

[KIRSTY] Strength and survival, you can and therefore you will!

6. How did you come up with the characters for your story?

[KIRSTY] The characters for Losing Lola were developed over three of the Mercy’s books, playing minor roles until it was their time to shine. In Lola I wanted a woman who was flawed. She is socially awkward and has for a long time tackled OCD, but she’s also strong, and independent, and prior to her assault she was completely content with the woman she was. Drew is a man who has made more than his fair share of mistakes, he’s the big, silent and intimidating type. Drew and Lola were two characters who were so unlike, and yet it was these differences that made them work.

7. How did you complete your writing? Did you structure your day a certain way with a word target?

[KIRSTY] I have NEVER written with structure or word targets. For me, I can only write when the feeling is there. If the feeling isn’t there, I listen to music, meditate and read until inspiration hits me. I have found over the years that my writing can’t be forced. Since I’m an author who really enters my characters head space, if I’m not in the right frame of mind to do that, I don’t push it. My readers probably hate me for it because they wait longer for my books, but I will always be true to who I am as a writer. Forcing something that isn’t there will put the wrong words to paper.

8. When you’re not writing or reading, what would you be doing?

[KIRSTY] When I’m not writing, or reading, or plotting, I’m being the best mum I can be to my nine-year-old daughter. Guiding her through life, helping her become the incredible woman I know she will one day be is my number one priority.

9. As an author, what was the best piece of advice you were ever given?

[KIRSTY] The best advice I have been given, is “show it, don’t tell it”. This is something that sits in the back of my mind every time I sit down to write. I always try to make sure I’m showing the reader the world I see in my head. I want the movie real I see in my mind to be conveyed on paper in such a way that it gives the reader an incredible journey.

 

Thank you Kirsty for sharing your insights and for the opportunity to review your book. Please keep writing and we’re excited about your current work Stupid Love.

Inspired by Losing Lola, our BFF and creative partner  The Curio Boutique has made a little thank you gift based off your book! We hope you will like it.

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Book review by NJ and Author Exclusive Interview by NJ and Annie. 

 

Be the Exception by Annie Meehan

“Gentleness is about knowing and naming the hurt in your soul, embracing it, and, in that same breath, removing the power it has over you.” – Annie Meehan

4 stars. Great for self reflection.

An authentic and empowering self-help read with useful and practical tips/exercises  to change life for the better. Annie Meehan (the author and motivational speaker) has written a perceptive and inspiring book on ways to put fear, anxiety and life’s traumas into perspective. She uses her own life experiences and trauma to convey a message of hope, faith and courage that enables the reader to feel empowered to live an exceptional life. Annie’s anecdotal accounts of her childhood and past traumas was shockingly sad and raw, I applaud her bravery and spirit in reconstructing her life, which is indeed exceptional. Recommended if you’re going through a tough time, over thinking issues, struggling with identity, relationships or simply after some tips to live a better life.

Other notable quotes:

“I was buried in sorrow not because of his absence, but because he had always been absent. I grieved for what wasn’t and what would never be.” – Annie Meehan

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” – Anaïs Nin

Click here to read the book blurb on Goodreads.

-NJ